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Where's the courtesy?

Published: Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Updated: Tuesday, September 29, 2009 13:09

 

     Let's think for a moment about this situation: Imagine yourself enjoying a quiet evening at home, in your apartment, on your couch. Either you're watching a movie, or perhaps you've been working on homework. Suddenly, the peaceful silence is rent asunder by the sound of loud voices and thumping steps as your oh-so-considerate neighbors thunder up the stairs outside of your apartment like a herd of elephants.
     Logic would dictate, to me at least, that when you're in a building, during the night, you would try to be quiet and respectful to those living around you. However, I guess some of the people who live above me, don't think about this at all. At least twice a day, I am rudely interrupted by the sound of people running and thudding up and down the stairs. Do we remember that there are people living right underneath these stairs? Hmm?
     Couple this issue with the smoking that continues outside of our window and on our front step (clearly not in one of the designated smoking areas for campus), I would say that the generation of students at Viterbo has lost a sense of what it means to be courteous to others. Has it come to the point that we are too self-centered now to consider how others might want to enjoy their time at school? I understand that we all want to have fun, but must it be done at the expense of others?
     So, my final point is to be aware of your surroundings. Take into account where you are, what time it is, and who you might be interrupting, awaking, or disrespecting with your actions. If that means being a bit quieter when you come in after being out at night, then so be it. If it means having to walk to the front of the Student Union to smoke a cigarette, so be it. Let's try a little harder to treat each other with respect and courtesy, because you're definitely more likely to be treated well by others if you treat them well to begin with.

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Adam
Wed Dec 23 2009 00:36
I don't believe you think this article is going to have any effect on your situation or that of others, Kyle, and so I wonder, why are you writing it? If this is what required entries as part of a course comes down to, I'd like something to change. However, that's probably not the whole issue.

As I see it, the problem is this.

We know how to change these sorts of behaviors in other people. Half a dozen trips up to someone's room or outside the building and half a dozen conversations is all that's necessary. It's a small place; there aren't so many annoying people that one can't deal with all of them. If we'd all be diligent in our talking things over, we wouldn't even need the fear of RA's on rounds or the threat of a phone call to security.

However, telling people they're wronging us makes them feel bad. Or at least that's what people like me (and perhaps you) figure. I worry more about the suffering I'd cause by repeatedly telling someone they're in the wrong than I would about most things they'd want to do to me. I pretend little things aren't issues until a small part of my insides folds itself into an origami nuclear reactor that produces a whole lot of steam energy, some of which escapes through my nose in a barely audible hiss. What I don’t do, even then, is go talk to people. I write stuff instead. Things end up here, in a medium entirely unaccessed by the people who we want to change. I put the issue out of mind by archiving it somewhere.

I think we should learn to talk to people that we want to change rather than past them. We’ll know we’re trying when changes take place.

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